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In a recent survey, they found that people who earn US$3,500 or more a month are the happiest. Are they really the happiest with their assets and are they really enjoying life? Compared to others who make less money, are they less happy? Unhappiness, as the survey mentioned could stem from their higher, unfulfilled expectations. The high-incomers probably define their happiness as having fine food, fancy cars and fabulous homes. But this kind of happiness is only physical and external and, as such, limited. These “successful” people are generally dissatisfied and unhappy probably because they keep measuring themselves against others. While others may perceive them as “happy people,” but in reality they too have their own issues to manage. Happiness is not an event like one’s career, meals, or enjoyment moment, it is a constant feeling. The point is that we are unlikely to be really happy if we define our happiness by others’ standards; for, it is a form of emotional dependence. Many think that happiness has to do with our purpose in life. What does the “purpose” really means? My personal view is that an effective way of living happily is to have a wholesome purpose-driven life. Such a purpose could be working hard to be able to bring happiness to those we love or intrinsic, that is, being passionate about what we believe in and do. An intrinsic purpose of life must be a wholesome one because we enjoy doing it for itself. Not only are we happy doing it, but it benefits others, too. If others around us suffer, we can never be truly happy by ourselves. If we are motivated by wisdom and compassion, we can be happy by being devoted to something bigger than our self. What is something bigger than our self, simple example like giving up a seat in a bus to an elderly, helping someone that is lost and willing to take care of less fortunate? Helping out with social activities and reaching out to others. Our happiness is not dependent on other’s praises, or from the wealth we created, or titles….. Our happiness depends on our own inner happiness and yet enjoy making more money. |
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Most of us watched the reality TV show called “Fear Factor”. I guess for the prize money that one could win it might be worth the while to go through the stunts that the producer designed. There are certain things one could do for the money but these stunts are not for everyone. If you overcome the fears of the stunts then you might eventually be the winner of the price money, Taking a step back, look at the current life that we live in. Growing up as kid to a teenage, working as an adult and some becoming parents. Through out the entire life cycle we have up and down but were there issues that stiffer our career path, our educational path or our growth. Were there opportunities that we missed out? Was there business school or 2nd degree that you should be attended but did not? Was FEAR the factor that stopped us from moving forward? What happened if that job was not right for me? What if they said no to my proposal? What if that investment was wrong and so forth? The point is not that we are uncertain about our decisions but the fear of making a mistake, fear of rejection, fear of losing our pride, fear that we cannot cope, fear that we cannot overcome our self. What is Fear? It is an emotional response to a threat, real or created within our mind. Fear always relates to an event or events in the future. Think about it, if you could stop and remove those fears out of your mind (expect those live threatening stunts) could live be better? My advise, overcome those fears. Even if your proposal was rejected, pick yourself up and move on. |
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Are changes being welcome in your life or status quo is preferred? If the changes are positive most will welcome it, while negative changes will be resisted and avoided. Most prefer to keep changes to the minimum as there is always a fear on what is the end result of any change.
If things are not broken why change? But again things around us are constantly changing and it is inevitable. If we keep avoiding changes we will stay in history.
Knowing that changes are unavoidable, I guess it is better to look ahead and accept the changes or make the changes in advance so that we can adapt or take advantages of the changes.
The rate of change could be sudden or gradual but things are changing at all time. The ability to accept will be the answer to a better life.
Being in the technology business, we witness changes very rapidly. Better CPU, more performance on network, technologies are built to do more with less, better software are being developed to cater for such needs. If we stop learning about such technologies or to avoid such technologies we will be literally being pushed out of the leading edge.
Accept the changes as challenges and be prepared for the ever changing phenomena. |
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There are mainly 3 broad categories of choices.
First is your own choice, what you decide to eat for dinner, lunch or snacks. When you want to sleep, who are your friends. How you want to feel, happy or sad in any given situation. The assumption is that you are leading a normal life. Obviously if you are sick or injured, you are temporary out of job, then your choices might be limited.
If you make a choice for a certain job but the interviewer is not offering you the job, it is not your choice it is someone else's choice. You need to convince them that you are suitable but that does not ensure that you have the job because that is not your choice. Secondly is the choice of others, who your neighbor wants to get married to, where he puts his shoe in his house, how he wants to treat you, what she wants to give you for a Christmas presents. These are choices made by others and you have no control. How someone wants to ride his bike, what religion he believes in and so forth. The third choice is made by nature, by God, by some enlighten beings. These are also not in your control. When disaster will hit a location, when the rains will fall, what time the sun will set or raise. These are what I called choice made by others too. If you take a look at the 3 broad choices, you only have one third of control. There is not much for you to decide on.
If you take a serious look at your own choices, you can make a difference in your life. If you have a choice, whatever you decide on, do not just consider about yourself, in another word do not be selfish think about others around you. This will make our world a better place to live in |
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Have you been taken advantage off or have you taken advantage of someone else? The world seems quite fair. A simple example, a diver filtered into my lane without proper signaling thus causing me to slow down to avoid an accident. I will be totally upset and disagree with such driving habit but again there were times when I was forced to filter into someone else lane and I think that is OK because of the road block in front and I had not choice.
I guess in this world that we live in, many such incidents happened to us. If we took notes of everything that has happened, the final equation might be a zero sum. We should not be too upset when we lost a deal or lost a chance to win the million dollars lottery. We should not be too happy when we out sold our competitors or we won the running race.
We should rejoice and be merry of course when we win but we should not think we are the best and no one else will ever beat us.
Be sad at failure, be happy with victory but do not let that feeling carry you too far away. |
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